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In 2007, I began my original website, Sonshine's Haven. In 2007, it was turned into a blog and used to keep family updated on my first husband's fight with liver cancer. He passed away November of 2009. We were married for 34+ wonderful years and this journals some of that grief process I've gone through.

I have since remarried another widower, but Mike is missed dearly, and will always be a big part of my life.

At times, all of us will be called to act as witnesses to the suffering of another. We will be unable to affect the outcome physically. Words will fail us. Prayer will seem futile. And yet, the act of bearing witness to someone else's trials is a sacred sorrow that offers and astounding glimpse of eternal joy." by Ginger Garrett

"Being willing to stay with a loved one throughout their travail, can be difficult....YES! But offering yourselves as faithful companions on a dark and dreadful journey can be an unmeasured blessing." (paraphrased by me)

3.20.2009

I always struggle knowing what to say on my blog. I'm such a private person; it isn't easy for me to step out and share my deepest feelings, or subject myself to criticism...verbal or unspoken. I'm not a gifted writer, so you will certainly find mistakes in my grammar. I share my heart because; if one person is encouraged, or one life is changed because of what they see me or my family living through, then it should be worth it. The love I do receive from most of you, keeps me standing.

I know many visit this site out of curiosity, or only to have an update on how Mike is doing, and I try to keep everyone up on his progress. I pray you can read through whatever I write, and get what you're looking for, and overlook the rest, if it's offensive to you.

I am a person of deep faith though, so God is a huge part of who I am, and is paramount on getting me through each day with Mike's illness. I have family, friends and even acquaintances, who don't believe the same as I do, and it troubles me when they are offended by what they read here. The last thing I would ever want to do is hurt anyone. I am not trying to judge anyone, or force my views in your face. I need all the support and encouragement I can get, just to walk through each day of this scary journey; so I pray you can overlook the beliefs you don't share with me or my family, and continue to be a shoulder we can lean on.

And last, I'd just like to encourage you to hold your loved ones a little tighter, forgive the little things they do that let you down or upset you, and cherish each moment you're given. Life is too short and precious!

Only by His grace,
Beverly

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Beverly,
You and Mike have been such a blessing to me. Your marriage...your kids....your love for each other...your faith and love for the Lord...all of these things have blessed and encouraged me. Your blog inspire's me to have faith...to trust in God. I know you don't always feel strong...but your grace and strength come shining through in the words that you write in your blog. Please continue to post. I know it is hard to know what to share and what not to share. I know it has to be a little uncomfortable. I read the blog for several reasons. I care deeply about you and Mike and I want to know how you both are doing. Secondly, I want to know if you guys have a specific need...prayer or otherwise. Thank you for sharing....and don't worry about mis-spelled words...none of us can spell either ;-)
With Love,
Kim (from Goody's)

A Different Light said...

I just had to respond to your latest post. There's certainly a part of me that would like to get a few names and numbers from you so I could set a few people straight -- I can't believe someone would have the nerve to complain to you about the content of your site while you are struggling with Mike's cancer.

Not to mention that you are only presenting truth! But we can't make them accept our understanding of the truth . . . but surely than can respect yours.

God bless and keep fighting the fight!

Greg