an adaptation of  The Journey of Grief..........

"You Live in a New World"



"My sister in law said it best after the death of my brother.  She told me, "You have lost a brother and I know that hurts.  But my whole world has been turned upside down.  Almost everything about me has been changed.  This change upsets my equilibrium and makes my whole world shake.

Grief is not like a disease that can be cured.  Grief is an amputation of part of you....that must be healed over, but will never be replaced.  It takes time and grace to learn how to go on without that part of you.

You get in a battle with yourself, trying to decide if you want to live or die, at times physically....but most especially....emotionally.  A lot of the time, the decisions to live again can be rather dramatic, and may not even seem familiar to you.  It takes time to get comfortable.

There are times in this grief process when you will be a little crazy, and it is all right to be crazy during these times.  The most important thing is not to fight yourself.  When you don't feel normal, it is important that you not panic and try to force yourself to feel different.  Feel what you feel.  And don't beat yourself up.  The hardest part of grieving is learning to let it happen.  Re-defining "normal" for you,  is the freedom to feel what you feel, and react like you react.  There are no right or wrong pathways."