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In 2007, I began my original website, Sonshine's Haven. In 2007, it was turned into a blog and used to keep family updated on my first husband's fight with liver cancer. He passed away November of 2009. We were married for 34+ wonderful years and this journals some of that grief process I've gone through.

I have since remarried another widower, but Mike is missed dearly, and will always be a big part of my life.

At times, all of us will be called to act as witnesses to the suffering of another. We will be unable to affect the outcome physically. Words will fail us. Prayer will seem futile. And yet, the act of bearing witness to someone else's trials is a sacred sorrow that offers and astounding glimpse of eternal joy." by Ginger Garrett

"Being willing to stay with a loved one throughout their travail, can be difficult....YES! But offering yourselves as faithful companions on a dark and dreadful journey can be an unmeasured blessing." (paraphrased by me)

9.11.2009

Mike didn't sleep very well last night.  When I woke up at 6 a.m., I found him in the office asleep in the recliner with the TV blaring.  He had slept there all evening. His bedsores have made him so miserable, he can't get comfortable enough to sleep.

So, before I left for work, I brought some breakfast up to Mike, and helped lay out his clothes for when he got dressed, and his medications.  He has been having trouble dressing himself, but I would have been late if I had stayed any longer to help him, so he told me to run along.  After he ate his breakfast and got dressed, he got into a coughing fit, and accidently vomited all over his clothes.  At lunch, I came home to hearing that, so he had changed, and I made him some lunch.  When I got home after work, I learned he had choked once again, and had to change his clothing.  I don't know if any of that food nourished him or not.  This evening, I got him to eat some dinner...and so far....he's kept it down.  He fell asleep on the couch around 8 p.m., and has been sleeping since.  I think, while he's comfortable, I'll just let him sleep there as long as he can.

During Bible study at the church where I work, they prayed for Mike.  Kay, the pastor's wife and leader, described how uncomfortable Mike has been from these bedsores.  One of the ladies in the group came back by the church in the afternoon and offered Mike and I a special pillow used for bedsores, they had been given for a family member, from the VA hospital.  It looks like an egg crate square pillow, that you can pump as much, or as little, air into.  Mike has been using it this evening and said he truly helps.  So maybe he will find some relief.

Mike is looking VERY thin.  I'm really concerned about him having enough strength to fight anything...let alone cancer.  He isn't drinking or eating enough to benefit him.  It's killing me inside, standing by, watching all of this, and being helpless to do anything.  I can't force him to eat.  I can't force him to drink fluids.  When I try to become a cheerleader, it only seems to frustrate Mike.

I know you will be in prayer for us over all of this.  Thank you for a warrior's heart!

1 comment:

Amos & Meredith Anderson said...

Hi Beverly,
We've had a busy week here in MN, but have been checking up on you guys via the blog. I just wanted to tell you that we're praying hard for you and Mike both.
Meredith