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In 2007, I began my original website, Sonshine's Haven. In 2007, it was turned into a blog and used to keep family updated on my first husband's fight with liver cancer. He passed away November of 2009. We were married for 34+ wonderful years and this journals some of that grief process I've gone through.

I have since remarried another widower, but Mike is missed dearly, and will always be a big part of my life.

At times, all of us will be called to act as witnesses to the suffering of another. We will be unable to affect the outcome physically. Words will fail us. Prayer will seem futile. And yet, the act of bearing witness to someone else's trials is a sacred sorrow that offers and astounding glimpse of eternal joy." by Ginger Garrett

"Being willing to stay with a loved one throughout their travail, can be difficult....YES! But offering yourselves as faithful companions on a dark and dreadful journey can be an unmeasured blessing." (paraphrased by me)

9.23.2009

Mike has felt pretty good today, considering his situation.  The depression that was a little heavy yesterday, has lifted today.  It just takes a little time reconciling ourselves to life now.  It's not always easy, but we do the best we can with what we're given, and try to be grateful for what we do have.

The coughing is still an issue, but I took it upon myself to find Mike a solution since we weren't getting anywhere the other route.  I bought some Musinex and hope it will help.  At least it lasts for 12 hours, compared to the Robitussin lasting only 4.  It has the same two ingredients, only more mg.  Mike and I are looking for a good nights sleep.  Heaven knows I really need one.

My flare seems to be winding down, Praise God!  I'm still having a little trouble with the pain and exhaustion, but I'm pushing through it a little more.  Thank you for praying for me.

Mike's drainage tube is working well.  Each night we've been able to drain about 1000 ml of fluid off his abdomen.  That is keeping him comfortable, and able to eat more, without feeling like he's going to burst. He's still at about 125 pounds though.  I've filled a jar with protein candy bars (our daughter and friend bought for Mike) and put it by his tableside, in hopes that it will be easy for him to just reach over and eat one.  He's turning his nose up to anything "healthy" for him lately, so I may need to put a few chocolate bars, Reese cups, and Snicker bars, in there to tempt him more.  We've got 50 pounds to put on him!!!  (And I need to stop trying to put it on for him! ;)

Amber helped us out today by shopping for some clothes for Mike.  It's a little difficult for Mike to wear his normal clothing...#1 because of all the drainage tubes.....#2 because the inseams rub against any boney areas and cause blisters or sores.  We had a couple of jogging suits, but I was constantly struggling keeping those clean every other day.  So Amber found three more jogging sets for us, that will be such a help, and she found them all on sale!  Yahoo! :)  They have drawstrings to help keep the clothes up, but give us the loose fitting that we need to be more discreet.

So all in all, it has been a blessed day!  God is meeting every need we have, and we're so grateful for such dear family and friends supporting us.
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